I’m Allie. I want to see you know your value and thrive in your life. I am the Founder and Director of Wonderfully Made, a nationwide non-profit for teen girls and young women designed to equip and encourage them to know their God-given value and live spiritually and emotionally healthy lives.
"WHEN A GIRL OR WOMAN KNOWS HER TRUE GOD-GIVEN VALUE, IT CHANGES EVERYTHING."
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Breaking Up With Your Ideal Self
Denmark is the happiest nation in the world—according to studies—and researchers attribute Danes’ happiness to having low expectations in life. In other words, Danes have a non-idealized way of looking at the world. The happiness killer isn’t having ideals. Rather, it’s the power we give them. We can either be inspired by or imprisoned by our ideals—and the choice is ours.
The word ideal can be defined as:
- Existing as a mental image or in fancy or imagination only; broadly: lacking practicality
- A standard of perfection, beauty, or excellence
- Of, relating to, or embodying an ideal
Since the age of twelve an ever-widening chasm between my life ideal and my reality has loomed over me. The daughter of successful parents with a mother who fed me motivational quotes and self-help books as if they were milk, I’ve always been a dreamer, a goal setter and a somewhat obsessive list-maker. Deep-seated insecurity has been the fuel driving many of my lofty, unmet goals.
In middle school I daydreamed of high school—of having a tall, baseball-playing boyfriend who drove a blue ’69 mustang; of being the standout soccer player and the captivating object of all the guy’s affection.
Lately I’ve been meditating on the idea of co-creating a life you love with God. I’ve never liked the phrase “she created a life she loved.” Something about it doesn’t sit with well with me because God is the Creator and we are not. Only God can create our life. But we can create our
I have a new ambition in life. It’s not to run a marathon or bake sourdough bread from scratch. It’s simply to master my technology so it doesn’t master me. I want to become a what author Cal Newport calls a “digital minimalist” so I can live undistracted and create good and meaningful work. Several
Oftentimes our lives turn out differently than we once imagined they would. I am so grateful for the story I get to live, but it does look different than I thought would as a girl and young woman. I’m learning it’s okay to grieve the dreams we once had and to let the tears fall. I